Month: May 2021

Waiting for the phone

Imagine these two pictures…

The first is a headmasters/principal’s office, big desk, big chair, angry man behind the desk looking all stern, super busy with loads to do and annoyed at being interrupted and having to deal with you. This is how we can see God at times, as an authority figure disapproving and too busy with running the universe and dealing with the worlds ‘real’ problems to want to deal with us and our little problems.

But then imagine a picture of the old type of phone with a cord attached to the wall, do you remember those type of phones? By the phone is an excited teenager waiting for a special phone call.  I remembering being a teenage girl, having an old phone like that and desperately waiting for a phone call from a friend. I would sit by the phone all night, just trying to make it ring with my mind power. I would be worried about leaving to go to the toilet or to get food, in case it rang and I did not get back in time (no leaving messages back then). Every now and then I would pick up the receiver to check the dial tone, to make sure it was still working, then hang it up carefully so it was properly in place. 

These 2 contrasting pictures shows us to different ideas of God. But God is not like the grumpy old man, he is more like the teenager excited and desperately waiting for us to call Him.  He is waiting for us to pick up the phone, to call to tell him about our dreams, our hopes, our fears, our struggles and to ask Him about the plans he has for us. 

A phone call is a two-way communication. And God is waiting eagerly for us and is eagerly waiting to talk to us and share with us His plans.  In the old days the phones where connected to a wall so you had to just stand there and talk to the person on the other end, totally focused on the conversation. Now days we walk and we chat and do the dishes, watch Tv, send emails or whatever, the person on the other end does not have our full attention. But God wants a old fashioned phone call from us.

God has some really exciting and important things to share with each of us but we need to pick up the phone.

Can I challenge you to not only expect to hear from God but be open and willing to listen. Be prepared to hear something that we might not expect or be comfortable with.  Gods plan maybe something you don’t want to do or something you never thought of doing or something so far outside your comfort zone it terrifies you.  And that is GOOD, growth happens in the space beyond what we know and it is time to explore that.  Gods plans are for our good, to prosper us and not to harm us, for our future and to give us Hope.

Gods plans are not to leave us where we are, it is always about growth, moving ahead and becoming more and more like Jesus.

Lets create space to hear from God where we are listening with expectation and with an open heart to hear HIS plans without filtering them through what we want to hear or through our own plans. Let God tell you HIS plan for your future.

The 3am Wake Up

God loves to talk to me at 3am. I will be fast asleep then suddenly I am awake, wide awake. God is there with something for me to hear.  It has happening to me so many times I have now learnt it is best to listen.  So now when I am woken at 3am I am expecting to hear something from God.

I have had most of my big life revelations at 3am. Most of my book ideas or speeches are planned with God at 3am.  This is the time when I am most likely to hear from God and hear His plans for me.  So why 3am? 

From the moment I wake up I am running around ‘doing’ things and even when I do pray and read my bible or do church activities, I can be just checking of another item off the to do list. They are good habits to have, but at times I can perform them but not really engaged in the activity. I am doing the action but not fully tuned in.  When I read and pray it is easy to rush off to the next thing and not stay silent or still long enough for God to speak back to me.  The noises and the activity of my life can be distractions and barriers to hear from God. So when God wants to tell me something important and have my undivided attention He calls at 3am and at 3am there is no Netflix or kids or emails to distract my attention, it is just God and me.

Maybe you can relate?

But when you need answers from God or you want to know Gods plans, we don’t want to rely on 3am wake ups. The answer is to create those 3am moments at other times in the day.   Creating 3am type moments throughout your day, when God has your attention and you are connected, and you are listening.   Being open for God to speak to you through all your activities and PAYING ATTENTION.

God speaks in so many different ways. We can hear from God through the Bible, song lyrics, a chat with a friend when they say the thing you really needed to hear, in prayer, listening to a speaker or in quiet moments of reflection and in journaling or writing.  For each of us finding that space to hear from God is going to look different.

Be intentional in creating quiet moments in your day with your ears open and expectant.

When you cannot sleep at night, have you ever thought maybe it’s God saying “We need to talk and you now have time”.

Annoymous

Being busy is not the problem

Being busy is not the same as being stressed. You can be very busy and not stressed or conversely you can be very stressed but not that busy. Stress is not related to how much you have on your plate but how you deal with it.

I am a very busy person. I love being busy and having many projects on the go at the same time.  I used to run on stress, feeling like I was always overwhelmed and under pressure and I was making myself sick from it. But I have now learnt that there is a difference between being busy and being stressed. It is possible to very busy and NOT stressed. It is not how much you are doing but how you deal with what you are doing. Now I do more than I did before but have significantly less stress in my life.

Stress comes from feeling like you have no control and can not cope.  When you feel like your life is running away from you and you are chasing it, running as fast as you can but you are out of breathe and always behind, never catching up. Stress from unmanageable and unrealistic work loads or expectations or the responsibilities placed on your shoulders that you carry alone and struggle under the weight. Situations that are uncertain or unfamiliar can cause stress too. So how do you regain control of your life?

Firstly realise that no matter the situation, personal or in your work, you have choices. You might not have full control over a situation and you can not control what other people do but you always have control over yourself.  You have control over your expectations, your words, your attitude, your thoughts and feelings, your behaviour, what you will accept and put up with, when you say yes and when you say no, your schedule and your priorities.  It might not feel like you do, but in reality you have so much more choice that you realise.  Stop telling yourself how stressed and overwhelmed you are, instead fill your mind with positive, empowering and encouraging words. Exercise your control, make healthy choices.

Secondly where do you get your strength from?  Are you trying to do everything under your own strength?  Jesus said

Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

Matthew 11:28-30

Jesus has already offered the solution for stress and worry. The exchange Jesus offers is incredible, he will carry your burdens, so you can live light.  It does not mean there will not be work to do, you might even be called to do more, but Jesus will carry the weight of it and will provide peace and joy when you work under Jesus. I know that when I work under the strength and guidance of Jesus, my stress and anxiety are lifted and I can cope with far more than my natural abilities and capabilities allow.

Thirdly, what practical things can you do?

  • Prayer is the antidote to stress. In prayer, you hand over your burdens, release the things you can not control and ask God to guide you in the areas where you have choices. So many times I have been feeling stressed about a problem I can not find the answer too and then remember to take it to God in prayer and immediately the answer pops into my head or I get a call or email with the solution. God cares about our worries and wants to help, we just need to seek Him.

  • Ask for help. We are not designed to do life alone and we can not cope by ourselves. We need each other and we need to ask for help. Do not be a martyr and struggle through alone, bring people into your life and let them work with you. It is not failure to need help or to ask for help, we all do at times. Today you need help and tomorrow you help someone else. In community we can achieve so much more than alone.

  • Lists, I love lists. Whatever is running through your head and overwhelming you, write it down. Get it out of your head and on to paper so you arrange your day, plan your time and your priorities. Be intentional in spending time on what it important to you. Take control of your time and take control of your life.